For the survivors:
Reach out to someone that you know you can trust
Go to the nearest crisis center or hospital to get documentation of everything and make sure you are okay
Put your clothes in a bag and do not wash them or shower
If you decide to report the assault to law enforcement, take a friend with you to make it easier
If you are able to, go to law enforcement with an attorney
Try to go to the crisis center/hospital right after the assault occurs
Write down everything you remember, even if it is difficult
Find a support group or therapist, it is good to talk to someone to get help
Take pictures of bruises or anything that shows that this happened
Journaling- this is a great way to get everything out of your head and helps when you are not ready to talk to others
Feel all of your emotions without shame
Let others know your boundaries
Find ways to distract yourself- coloring books, reading, journaling
Know that you WILL be okay
It is not your fault
To Stay Safe:
Always let your friend know where you are going
Do not let anyone make a drink for you, even if you think you can trust them
Communicate your boundaries
https://www.undercovercolors.com -Nail Polish that changes colors if you have been drugged
https://www.drinksafe.com/20-test-date-rape-kit/ -Strips to take with you to test your drink for drugs
Do not trust everyone- most rapists are someone that you know
Meet people in public, never alone
Be aware of your surroundings
Trust your instincts
Have a way to protect yourself (pepper spray, etc.)
For Loved Ones:
Avoid Judgement
Let the survivor take their time in telling you what happened
Give them space, but check in periodically
Allow them to feel their emotions
Listen and abide by their boundaries
Let them know they will be okay and it is not their fault
Let the survivor decide who to tell about the assault
Ask before offering physical support
Be patient
